The Biblical principle of sacrifice requires an exchange of one thing for another. Sometimes we want the payoff without the exchange. We want results without sacrifice. However, with sacrifice there must be an exchange of one thing for something of greater value.

I have been involved in many situations where addiction takes a home and its family hostage. The home becomes a playhouse for the enemy, who creates chaos, wounds the innocent and places a substance before family members, self and -- most importantly -- God.

Family members cry out for change but continue in destructive behavior. I hear words like “whatever it takes to help, I’ll do it.” However, when it comes to walking out the exchange and it becomes uncomfortable and difficult, the personal sacrifice is deemed too great and the enemy wins the battle.

The Accuser stands and whispers to those who want change, “This isn’t love.” “Who do you think you are?”

“You’ll never win this battle.”

“You don’t have the right to say no.”

1 Corinthians 10:24 says, “Do not seek your own good, but the good of the other person.” Confronting the addiction and setting boundaries is for the good of the other person. However, it may require time apart from the family member if they chose not to get help and continue in their sinful, destructive behavior.

Often in those situations, the person who confronts is hounded with accusations from the person who is addicted. The Accuser stands with them and hurls words to prevent the consequences of their choice to continue the sinful behavior. It’s not about rejecting the addicted person; it is about being willing to provide consequences to deal with the sinful behavior they have chosen while refusing assistance in laying down that sin.

Walking out the Biblical principle of sacrifice may include our families. Sometimes we must see God’s vision for the family instead of our own. God’s will must supersede our own comfort and will. Matthew 10:37 says, “Whoever loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.”

I was recently struck by a scene in “Glory,” a movie about the first African-American soldiers in the Civil War. In the dark, the war-worn soldiers gathered around a campfire. They were clapping, raising hands and singing, “Lord, Lord, Lord.” Several soldiers took turns standing and encouraging the others about the battle they faced in the morning. Many knew they would lose their lives.

One man stood and said, “Lord, if we die tomorrow, let our families know it was for their freedom that we died.”

I say as well, “Lord, if I die tomorrow, let them know everything I did and sacrificed was for the good of the other.”